Why the past is always brought up in the present?

The past is there to help one never forget the things they have been through in order to become the person they are today. If it wasn’t for the people in our past, who knows who or where we might be today. In our past we have made many wrong choices and went in many wrong directions and it’s up to us to choose to use that map as a reference to never make the same mistake twice. We all have loved or still love one special person in our life but just can’t seem to get over their past mistakes. It’s true they say the past is the past but they also say that the past will always haunt your future as my mother always says.

I have a love from when I was 14 years old and at that age I thought I found a soul mate isn’t that cute me thinking I have a soul mate at 14 lol. However, if you are anyone close to us you too would say we are meant to be. We tried and tried and we just didn’t make it. He loves me yes I know this but he just fucks up and has me look at him in a different view...

“Why lie in my face and tell me sweet things? Why lie in my face and tell me you love me? Why lie in my face and feed me lies and dreams? Why lie in my face and paint a picture of your dreams? Your dreams can only come true if you were as single as me. But unfortunately you are tied down to your “Queen”. I know you love me and this is where you want to be but I can’t build something on just a dream.”

The things you have done I would say have not been the worst, but it does come close to most. I've tried and tried to forgive you for what you have done but when I think about giving you that chance I seem to think your chances are slim to none. Maybe if I felt what you were saying was true but I feel like this story has been told over and over through you.  You say you’re sorry and you’ll never do it again but I feel like you keep pressing rewind and rewind again.  How do I know that if I let the past be the past you won’t make me have to bring the past back up to the present again?

Why do females go from male lovers to female lovers?

Love does not have to only be between a man and a woman. It can be between whoever male and male or female and female its really up to you. I have plenty of lesbian friends and I realize why they go from straight to lesbian and not just in between (meaning bisexual). Many of them even have children. Women don't turn lesbian just because they can't find a man. Some are lesbians because they have been raped and don't trust men. Some lesbians just don't find men attractive and the thoughtof them just disgust them. And others are lesbians because their tired of the bullshit niggas put them through. Some men really violate and hurt women feelings whether they cheat on them, beat on them or just treat them like their nothing. Then when the woman leaves and swear off men the guys want to get mad. What you mad for cause you can't get none, that you've lost her and are tried of running around with these hoes. Or maybe your mad at the fact that now she has a female playing the part where you should have been. Grant it a female can't teach a boy how to be a man but they can sure do the best that they can to make sure he respects female and doesn't end up like you (a waste of a man).

A female wants to be loved and cherished the right way, don't get it twisted some girls are just like niggas and play just as many games. However, then you have those one's that are not into all that and really wants to love you the way you need to be loved. 9 out of 10 times there will be a women that has went through the same exact thing you went through. That starts off the similarity between the two. Then you may have a child and then you find out either she has one too or she loves children (that's a plus). Then a extra plus is when she treats you better than any nigga has ever in your whole entire life. She sends you flowers and cards just because. You come home and your bath is ready and waiting just for you. She massages every where from head to toe to release the stress from your long day. Then you'll get dinner and then become dinner before the night is over. Who wouldn't want the whole package. Hell who wouldn't want this o so poppin life. And trust and believe you won't miss the dick that much ladies cause these girl definitely put it down the right way...LOL

Hate

    Hate is such a strong 4 letter word
    
    It's  the total opposite of the word love
   
    H is when your HEATED to no return with this person
   
    A is when the ANGRY goes so deep within your soul that your going to explode
   
    T is for the many TIMES you have tried to make this work and it hasn't
    
    E is for the ETERNAL pain you will have if you stay with this person
    
   We will love this person to the bitter end but when we began to HATE its then to
    LATE

A Wild and Crazy Night

 Everyone has had a wild and crazy night where u felt like damn that was me. Damn I aint know I could put it down like that lol. I think we all have whether its male or female, gay or straight we all have had those nights. Those are the nights when your there and in your mind your saying "damn I'm down for whatever". And you know what makes this night even funnier, is when you got the craziest friend saying "Handle that" all night lol.

 

Some people get them wild and crazy nights just from a couple drinks or some pif if that's your preference. Sometimes at the time that wild and crazy night seems good if you got a sexy nigga or chick on your side. A crazy night makes you do things in the craziest places like bathroom, outside, movie theater or other places. These places excite you and the thought of someone else watching you or even being caught heightens your arousal.   

 

The bad part of these wild and crazy nights are having one of those nights with the wrong person. You might even make a mistake with a person you knew was a no no, whether you are kissing and hugging or cuffing and loving. Ugh that makes you wish you had a cock blocking friend close by lol (inny). That friend that could snap you back into reality. These bad times happen when you want it so bad that you make your standards of a person be lower than normal. Lol we all have them wild and crazy nights but next time let it be with a bad ass SHORTY...

 

10 Ways to keep your man

    1. Keep your appearance on point
  
    2. Keep the bedroom games exciting
  
    3. Show him he's #1 in your life
  
    4. If he plays ball be his number 1 supporter
  
    5. Know how to cook
  
    6. Be his support system
  
    7. Send him sweet messages through the day
  
    8. Be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets
  
    9. Be that trophy for him
  
   10. And don't smash the homies like danger on "For the Love of Ray J" LOL

10 Ways to keep your girl

    1. Be honest at all times
    
    2. Send cute text messages
   
    3. Give her good body massages
    
    4. Keeping her happy by doing little things
    
    5. Take her on romantic dates
    
    6. Send flowers or little gifts for no reason
    
    7. Keeping her sexually interested
    
    8. Treat her like your bestfriend
    
    9. Love her unconditionally
    
   10. Always keep yourself up for her

How does Love feel? And why does Love sometimes hurt?

    Love is suppose to be the best feeling in the world. Which is true sometimes and false at another. When your in love with a person, that person is your all your everything. When your in love you miss that person every second in a minute, every minute in a hour, every hour in a day and every day in a year. When your in love with a person you can't eat or even sleep when your worried about them. When your in love with a person their pain becomes your pain. Both of your hearts become one.  That is what you call being in love with someone, and you would do any and everything in your power to keep them in your life.

    Even though that's what LOVE makes us feel, it also makes us feel pain and hurt. You ever been in love with someone so much, even though they hurt you. They either hurt you mentally or even physically. Many people have had those lovers that would call you everything under the sun when they are doing something wrong. Some also might have those lovers that would physically break you down. They might hit on you because their frustrated or just to fuck up your face and body so no one would even look at you. This type of love is not the good love.

    Love should never hurt. And I always say if a man can tell you to your face I love you then fuck you up he may not really love you. He knows that your weak and will just roll with the punches as they come. If you love someone that is loving you with pain and hurt, you need to love yourself just as much as they love you and leave.

    I know love comes in many different forms and it hurts many different ways. And we hear men tell us all the time "I keep it real with them hoes cuz I don't give a fuck about them. I lie to you cuz I care about your feelings" by Jodie from baby boy. That's just a bunch of BS and now they wanna say that cuz they got caught. If everyone could learn to love without the hurt and the pain, then everything would be just right.

Fake Friends We All Have Them

    What are fake friends? Those are the ones that make you feel like damn that's my sista. She really aint your sista she just makes you feel she is cuz she has no one else to hang with. If you really think about it why would you want to befriend a person that you would really violate at the drop of a dime if they hurt your feelings.

    If you and your friend were true friends almost like sistas why would yall air out one anothers dirty laundry to the world, threaten one another or even steal something from that person and act like you lost it. Lol that's not a true friend. If you can sit down and truely say this person had my back at all times and never ran and left me then that's a true friend.

    Have you ever had someone that you chilled with everyday and never goes home. Lol that's not a true friend that's someone that's just using you to have a place to lay their head down. That person would do anything to keep you from telling them to go home. Even if you do chose to keep this person around trust and believe you better not bring your man around her.

    Fake friends are the ones that will make you feel like damn this my bitch forreal. But in all reality she's just using you cuz all her friends and family got tired of her and her lies. She hops for one person to the next talking about the friend she use to hang out with hard body. One minute that was her bitch, her sista her very best friend now she probably with you talking wild crazy about that girl. Trust me I know her kind very well. Don't TRUST her cuz once you tell her leave she will hop to the next friend stay there and talk wild crazy about you too...That's what you call a FAKE FRIEND we all have them...

How do you forgive a man if he cheats? Or do you forgive him at all?

Mmmmm this is a good question. Over the years that we all have dated there are plenty of things that our men have done. We may not want them out there messing with them “side-chicks” but they do. They do it not because the women are always lacking something in the relationship but because of their own selfish reasons. 

Men have a problem and so cheating becomes their safe haven. They run to these girls because of  1 or 2 reasons.  1 reason is because they can’t help but to cheat. Some men do better when they don’t have that title of “My boyfriend or My man”. Another reason is because this chick might just be the total opposite of you.  She might be the one that will be his homie lover friend or just that friend with benefits. Now I’m not tryna knock the girls that just want that title of “friends with benefits” all I’m saying is just get something more than just a nut.

Now in my life I have been cheated on whether it was by a friend, family member or just some girl I do not know. She was that nasty girl that would do any man that waved a dollar in the air. She would sleep with your man just because she wanted to get one off or just because you had him. She was that chick that would hold his drugs and guns whenever he asked her to. Huh good for her cuz that damn sure aint me. He even told me the different between you and her was she was a hood chick. I respect it all but a man gets tired of all that hood shit, and needs his lady to be a lady at times too but she couldn’t.  So as I always say a side chick will be a side chick, but that main bitch remains the same.

Should you forgive him I will say yes, but only if it has been one time. You know why I say this because a lot of married people in this world have cheated. There are probably a handful of married couples in this world that can honestly say “I have never cheated on my wife or husband”. Our younger years are here for us to miss up in, and our older years will be when we have to work past the entire BS that we have been put through. When you find that one that you feel is your long lifetime partners don’t expect them to be perfect. Expect them to fuck up and learn from it, so it can make him/her a better man or woman for you in the long run.

Side-Chick

A side-chick is a girl that is messing with a guy while he is in a relationship. Now many of us are in denial, but all of our men have or had a side-chick. We would all like to say “No not my man”, but I have to say yes your man.  Men just can’t help themselves and neither can these nasty girls.

Side-chicks are these girls that will do the things that we would never think to do.  She would be the freak in the street that he doesn’t want to make his main girl be. She would suck for a treat as long as it got her something nice on her feet.  The side-chick has no type of respect or morals because she’s the one willing to do anything in the sheets.  The side-chick has no respect for the main chick because if she did there wouldn’t be a side-chick to begin with.

Let’s keep it real most women wouldn’t have a man at home and still have another on the side. Hold on let me stop many girls do that. Many girls will bring their man around the whole family having him feel special when you know you a side-chick to another man. Some women might even live with the man and still dip out with the next honey as long as she had her lies together.

A side-chick is one of those friends that both you and your man have in common. Lol that’s that funny bitch that will smile up in your face, eat up your food, shit in your toilet and fuck your man on the dirty low. Mmmm ladies do you feel me. Many of us have that one friend that doesn’t mind being that side chick to your man or anyone else’s.  Good women need to look out for them side chicks because they can be a friend or family member. We all know family would to your man in a hot second  especially if one of your cousins is hot in the pants.

TO BE A BABYMAMA

To be a babymama goes out to all the babymamas out there doing their thing.
I'm a babymama and I want to talk about some of the things that many girls go through as a babymama. As a babymama we have NO choice but to grow up into women.
No matter how old we are when we chose to have these children, we must be the ones to grow up faster because the baby fathers won't. Men or "Babyfathers" are never really ready when they have children. These men walk around like they handle they business when they bearly do. Babyfathers love to have that title to make other women think that they are responisble....WRONG

Being a babymama means you are the one who takes on all the dead weight. We
do it all, we are the caretakers, financial supporters and the one's that will always be there. We can hope, pray and beg but we can't make the father be there. As a
babymama some of us need to stop trying to get these men to do what they need to.
If he want to have another girl, girl let him.
If he wants to front to his boys like he dont want you, fuck him.
If he wants to lie about chicks that ur friends and family saw him with, girl forget that nigga he aint worth it.
If he always crying broke but takes some girl out, DEAD BEAT DADDY
If we wants to say he aint got time to spend with his kid, he probably got another girl or worse another kid ughh.

Since I been a babymama I learned that you can't make No nigga take their kid(s) out so stop tryin.
A nigga can make babies all over the world but your the one stuck with these babies.
Ladies stop letting this niggas convince you they gone be there when their diggin your back out in bed cuz pussy make a nigga say anything.
And ladies dont sit back and be mad because this nigga aint there when you need him just put that in your memory bank because trust me, there will be plenty more fucked up shit that he does that will be added into there.
You just have to have the power to say "Fuck him I'ma show him I don't need his ass...."