Why are lies told?

• The definition of lie is a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.
• The definition of a liar is a person or thing that lies, as in wait or in ambush.
• The definition of a pathological liar is a person who tells lies frequently, with no rational motive for doing so.

                   

            Those are very important definition that I myself take very seriously. I know there are many people that hate liars in the world, but why do people lie? Many lie because their afraid to tell the truth and many lie to stay out of trouble. It’s known that people start lying at a very young age and it only gets worse as people get older. Dr. Gail Saltz states “first lie is not malicious, but rather to find out, or test, what can be manipulated.” Why do people have the urge to lie and try to get away with it? They lie because they see an open door for it and they know that they can get away with it.  I believe there’s a difference between children lying and adults lying.I believe theres a difference because their age determines their experience in lying and how well they lie. People who are experienced in lying are called pathological liars. Those are the type of liars I can’t deal with. When it comes to liars we believe the lie as the truth until it is revealed as a lie.

 

            I’m going to ask the ladies something real quick. Ladies how many times has your man said I lie to you because I care about your feelings? Ugh even in the movie “Baby Boy” Jodi lying behind says it. He says, “I out here telling these hoes the truth. I lie to you because I care about your feelings.” If he really cared he would tell you the truth and give you the choice to either deal with it or walk away.  Why men don’t give us the choice to deal with it huh, its either two reason; 1) because they don’t want to lose a good thing at home or 2) because they want to have their cake and eat it too. Ladies you need to stop believing these dudes and turning the blind eye when you see something just because you’re afraid to be alone. I would rather be by myself then have to share my man because he wants to lie and have a double life. Like my grandmother always says, “I will share my food, but I won’t share my man.” Lol, I so live by that rule.

Why the past is always brought up in the present?

The past is there to help one never forget the things they have been through in order to become the person they are today. If it wasn’t for the people in our past, who knows who or where we might be today. In our past we have made many wrong choices and went in many wrong directions and it’s up to us to choose to use that map as a reference to never make the same mistake twice. We all have loved or still love one special person in our life but just can’t seem to get over their past mistakes. It’s true they say the past is the past but they also say that the past will always haunt your future as my mother always says.

I have a love from when I was 14 years old and at that age I thought I found a soul mate isn’t that cute me thinking I have a soul mate at 14 lol. However, if you are anyone close to us you too would say we are meant to be. We tried and tried and we just didn’t make it. He loves me yes I know this but he just fucks up and has me look at him in a different view...

“Why lie in my face and tell me sweet things? Why lie in my face and tell me you love me? Why lie in my face and feed me lies and dreams? Why lie in my face and paint a picture of your dreams? Your dreams can only come true if you were as single as me. But unfortunately you are tied down to your “Queen”. I know you love me and this is where you want to be but I can’t build something on just a dream.”

The things you have done I would say have not been the worst, but it does come close to most. I've tried and tried to forgive you for what you have done but when I think about giving you that chance I seem to think your chances are slim to none. Maybe if I felt what you were saying was true but I feel like this story has been told over and over through you.  You say you’re sorry and you’ll never do it again but I feel like you keep pressing rewind and rewind again.  How do I know that if I let the past be the past you won’t make me have to bring the past back up to the present again?

Why do females go from male lovers to female lovers?

Love does not have to only be between a man and a woman. It can be between whoever male and male or female and female its really up to you. I have plenty of lesbian friends and I realize why they go from straight to lesbian and not just in between (meaning bisexual). Many of them even have children. Women don't turn lesbian just because they can't find a man. Some are lesbians because they have been raped and don't trust men. Some lesbians just don't find men attractive and the thoughtof them just disgust them. And others are lesbians because their tired of the bullshit niggas put them through. Some men really violate and hurt women feelings whether they cheat on them, beat on them or just treat them like their nothing. Then when the woman leaves and swear off men the guys want to get mad. What you mad for cause you can't get none, that you've lost her and are tried of running around with these hoes. Or maybe your mad at the fact that now she has a female playing the part where you should have been. Grant it a female can't teach a boy how to be a man but they can sure do the best that they can to make sure he respects female and doesn't end up like you (a waste of a man).

A female wants to be loved and cherished the right way, don't get it twisted some girls are just like niggas and play just as many games. However, then you have those one's that are not into all that and really wants to love you the way you need to be loved. 9 out of 10 times there will be a women that has went through the same exact thing you went through. That starts off the similarity between the two. Then you may have a child and then you find out either she has one too or she loves children (that's a plus). Then a extra plus is when she treats you better than any nigga has ever in your whole entire life. She sends you flowers and cards just because. You come home and your bath is ready and waiting just for you. She massages every where from head to toe to release the stress from your long day. Then you'll get dinner and then become dinner before the night is over. Who wouldn't want the whole package. Hell who wouldn't want this o so poppin life. And trust and believe you won't miss the dick that much ladies cause these girl definitely put it down the right way...LOL

Hate

    Hate is such a strong 4 letter word
    
    It's  the total opposite of the word love
   
    H is when your HEATED to no return with this person
   
    A is when the ANGRY goes so deep within your soul that your going to explode
   
    T is for the many TIMES you have tried to make this work and it hasn't
    
    E is for the ETERNAL pain you will have if you stay with this person
    
   We will love this person to the bitter end but when we began to HATE its then to
    LATE

A Wild and Crazy Night

 Everyone has had a wild and crazy night where u felt like damn that was me. Damn I aint know I could put it down like that lol. I think we all have whether its male or female, gay or straight we all have had those nights. Those are the nights when your there and in your mind your saying "damn I'm down for whatever". And you know what makes this night even funnier, is when you got the craziest friend saying "Handle that" all night lol.

 

Some people get them wild and crazy nights just from a couple drinks or some pif if that's your preference. Sometimes at the time that wild and crazy night seems good if you got a sexy nigga or chick on your side. A crazy night makes you do things in the craziest places like bathroom, outside, movie theater or other places. These places excite you and the thought of someone else watching you or even being caught heightens your arousal.   

 

The bad part of these wild and crazy nights are having one of those nights with the wrong person. You might even make a mistake with a person you knew was a no no, whether you are kissing and hugging or cuffing and loving. Ugh that makes you wish you had a cock blocking friend close by lol (inny). That friend that could snap you back into reality. These bad times happen when you want it so bad that you make your standards of a person be lower than normal. Lol we all have them wild and crazy nights but next time let it be with a bad ass SHORTY...

 

10 Ways to keep your man

    1. Keep your appearance on point
  
    2. Keep the bedroom games exciting
  
    3. Show him he's #1 in your life
  
    4. If he plays ball be his number 1 supporter
  
    5. Know how to cook
  
    6. Be his support system
  
    7. Send him sweet messages through the day
  
    8. Be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets
  
    9. Be that trophy for him
  
   10. And don't smash the homies like danger on "For the Love of Ray J" LOL

10 Ways to keep your girl

    1. Be honest at all times
    
    2. Send cute text messages
   
    3. Give her good body massages
    
    4. Keeping her happy by doing little things
    
    5. Take her on romantic dates
    
    6. Send flowers or little gifts for no reason
    
    7. Keeping her sexually interested
    
    8. Treat her like your bestfriend
    
    9. Love her unconditionally
    
   10. Always keep yourself up for her